How to Write a Great Online Dating Profile: A Step-by-Step Guide
- Catherine Llewellyn
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How to Write a Great Online Dating Profile: A Step-by-Step Guide
Online dating is competitive—but the truth is, most profiles sound the same. If you can write yours with clarity, confidence, and authenticity, you’ll instantly separate yourself from the crowd. Here’s how to do it right.
1. Start With a Strong, Eye-Catching Opener
Skip the clichés like “I love to laugh” or “Just seeing what’s out there.”Everyone writes that.
Instead, use an opener that shows personality. For example:
“Currently trying to master homemade pizza—results are questionable but delicious.”
“Part-time adventurer, full-time overthinker.”
“Looking for someone who will judge coffee shops with me.”
A good opener makes someone want to keep reading.
2. Show, Don’t Tell
Instead of listing adjectives like “fun, loyal, ambitious”—which anyone can write—show these traits through specifics.
Instead of:“I’m adventurous.”Try:“I book cheap flights to random places just for the food.”
Instead of:“I’m family-oriented.”Try:“I never miss my niece’s football games. I’m basically the team’s unofficial photographer.”
Specifics make you memorable and help people picture life with you.
How to Write a Great Online Dating Profile: A Step-by-Step Guide
3. Highlight 3–5 Key Parts of Your Life
You don’t need to list everything. Focus on the things that matter most.
Think:
Your passions
Your lifestyle
How you spend weekends
Things you’re proud of
Things you want in your next relationship
Example:“My week usually includes the gym, cooking experiments, dog walks, and planning my next trip.”
Simple. Clean. Vivid.
4. Be Positive—Not Negative
Avoid statements like:
“No drama.”
“Don’t message me if…”
“Not interested in games.”
Negativity pushes away good matches and attracts the wrong attention.
Instead, frame what you want.
Negative:“No lazy people.”Positive:“I click best with people who love staying active.”
5. Add Humor (Even One Line Helps)
Humor instantly boosts your attractiveness and makes your profile approachable.
Examples:
“I make great pancakes and terrible life decisions (kidding… mostly).”
“My love language is snacks.”
“Looking for a partner in crime. Must appreciate dad jokes.”
Even one line can make you seem warm, confident, and fun.
How to Write a Great Online Dating Profile: A Step-by-Step Guide
6. Make Your Intentions Clear (Without Scaring Anyone)
Don’t be vague. But don’t love-bomb either. Be honest and direct.
Examples:
“Open to something serious, but happy to see where chemistry goes.”
“Looking for a real connection, not a situationship.”
Authenticity attracts the right match faster.
7. Craft a Strong Prompt Answer (Hinge, Bumble, Tinder)
Prompts are your chance to show personality. Use them wisely.
Great prompt answers:
Prompt: “A green flag I look for…”Answer: “Someone who communicates openly and laughs easily.”
Prompt: “Unusual skills…”Answer: “I can spot the best item on any menu in under 10 seconds.”
Prompt: “Two truths and a lie…”Answer:
“I’ve broken a bone doing something dumb.”
“I can cook a full meal with two ingredients.”
“I’ve met a celebrity in an airport.”
(Make them guess!)
8. Choose Great Photos—They Matter
Your photos do 70–80% of the work. Here’s how to pick the best ones:
✔ Clear, recent face photo✔ Full-body photo✔ One smiling photo✔ One candid or hobby photo✔ One social photo (not a group of 10 people)
Avoid:✘ Blurry pics✘ Sunglasses in every photo✘ Gym mirror selfies✘ Old photos from 5+ years ago✘ Group photos where people can’t tell who you are
Look approachable, confident, and real.
9. End With an Invitation to Start a Conversation
Add a call-to-action that makes it easy for someone to message you.
Examples:
“Tell me your go-to comfort food.”
“What’s your most impulsive travel story?”
“If you could take me to one place in your city, where are we going?”
This increases your match-to-message rate instantly.
10. Keep It Real—Don’t Try to Be Perfect
You don’t need to be a superhero. You just need to be you, but confident and intentional.
A great profile is:
Specific
Positive
Authentic
Playful
Clear about what you want
The right person will connect with exactly who you are—not the version you think you’re “supposed” to be.
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